This section INFP-ESFJ relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, INFP's natural partner is the ENFJ, or the ESFJ. INFP's dominant function. Hi Blake (and others): I seem to recall that Blake wrote somewhere that ESFJ was the best (romantic) relationship match for an INFP.
They adhere strictly to their own moral code, and want a partner who agrees with them on issues of right and wrong, should and should not. Conscientiousness is important to the ESFJ, and when they follow through responsibly on their promises, they expect the same from others.
ESFJs dislike conflict and are motivated to resolve it quickly. They prefer stable, harmonious relationships and like a partner who is able to be loving and committed, even when the ESFJ has strong emotional reactions.
ESFJs appreciate a partner who notices their efforts to provide for their families, and commends them on a job well done. What are ESFJs like as parents? They should take care not to let this interfere with their close relationships. Sexually, ESFJs are warm and loving, and welcome intimacy as an opportunity to express their affections, and receive their partners gifts of love.
Many ESFJs have a tendency to be highly scheduled and traditional in their sexual habits, but this is almost always overcome by increasing their education and awareness of options. ESFJs are very service-oriented and will place a lot of importance on making their partners happy.
Being highly practical, the ESFJ is excellent in matters regarding home management. They're likely to be very responsible about taking care of day-to-day needs, and to be careful and cautious about money matters. They are interested in security and peaceful living, and are willing and able to do their part towards acheiving these goals for themselves, their mates, and their families.
Most ESFJs have a strong need to "belong" - whether it be to institutions or traditions, or family units. This need usually causes them to be quite social creatures, who enjoy attending parties, as well as throwing their own. They're likely to strongly desire that their mates share in their social experiences.
How did we arrive at this? Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
They expect their children to honor, respect and obey their parents, and do not tolerate well any deviance from this rule of behavior.
Their Feeling preference makes it difficult for them to punish or discipline their children. If they have not worked on overcoming this issue, they may tend to punish their children in less obvious ways, such as using guilt manipulation. This is a potential pitfall for the ESFJ to overcome. It is generally more effective and more healthy to directly issue punishment when called for.
I absolutely love how sensitive and genuine he is as a person, just how much he opens himself up to me. It means the world and more, to be his special person. I really treasure our relationship, he's wonderful to me.
With all relationships, there will be some bumps here and there. For example, just earlier today when I was talking to him about the possibility of being an ESFJ, he told me that it made some sense, with how I "suck so much" at paying attention to some of the interests he has. He literally writes up paragraphs of stories and video games and whatnot and sends them to me to read, but I have a lot of trouble focusing and getting into all of it. When I realized that it was apparent I don't react appropriately to his messages, I began to cry, I felt so guilty and awful that I must have hurt his feelings because I have difficulty being interested in what he writes about, and I din't want him to know that.
The last thing I want to do is hurt anyone's feelings or make them feel like whatever it is they like or are passionate about is insignificant or unimportant.
This kind of thing happens a lot though, I get very emotional over everything. Very expressive, I get frustrated and excited and upset and just everything in between, I don't hide my feelings very well at all.