You Can Have The Love You Deserve If You Just Let Go
So often we cling to old relationships because we're afraid there's nothing better for us. We can have the love we deserve, but first we have to let go. Why did I let someone who was so undeserving have my love, time, and affection ? We all like to think that we have what it takes to mend the damage someone. Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships and Rediscovering Yourself. By Lakshmi I was afraid to let go of friendships because I feared having no one in my life.
You see, I have had many opportunities to learn the lesson of letting go throughout my life. People I loved have died, friends have vanished, and men have come and gone.
Every single time I have had the opportunity to let go I have fought it. No one will ever be as good.
The pain will never stop. When I was going through the devastating first weeks of my breakupI kept getting the same message over and over again: You are being cleared out for something amazing to come in. Deep inside me, buried quietly under the overwhelming heartache, was my soul nodding yes.
I have actively faced my pain over and over again these past few months. I know that to heal we have to be with our feelings so we can release them. I cried more than I ever have in my life.
I went deeper into my darkness than ever before.
For Anyone Who Is Afraid To Let Go Because They Think They’ll Never Find Someone Better
I saw the unworthiness I felt and all the fears. I wish you a profound encounter with yourself. I was afraid to let go of friendships because I feared having no one in my life. My wake-up call came when I learned that a friend had driven drunk and died in an accident. Even though I barely drank, I knew it was time to make a change. I was tired of holding on to that man for whom I meant nothing; I wanted a relationship that would make me feel alive.
I was tired of holding on to unhealthy friendships; I wanted friendships that would make me feel supported. I realized I had to stop sacrificing myself and my happiness for others. Doing something out of love, to be helpful, is different from doing it out of fear or need, because you want validation.
I also knew this would help me attract healthier relationships. When you start doing things for yourself, people pick up on that energy and can see and appreciate you for who you are. We can face a lot of resistance when we try to let go of people. A call, thought, or memory is enough to reel us back in. Reconnect with any people or interests that may have received less attention while you were attached.
The strong, happy, passionate person you were attracted your ex. That person will get you through this loss and attract someone equally amazing in the future when the time is right.
Not a sad, depressed, guilt-ridden person clutching to what once was. What do you love about life? Hope can be a terrible thing if it keeps you stuck in the past. Breaking off the friendship might feel like ruining your chances at knowing love again. So instead of wanting a specific person to re-enter your life, want love and happiness, whatever that may look like. You will know love again. In one way or another, you will meet all kinds of people and create all kinds of possibilities for relationships—if you forgive yourself, let go, and open yourself up, that is.
Losing a relationship can feel like a mini-death, complete with a grieving process. Next, you feel hurt and guilty. You should have done things differently. Then, you feel angry and maybe even start bargaining. It would be different if you gave it a second go.
Eventually, you start accepting what happened and shift your focus from the past to the future. You have to go through the feelings as they come, but you can help yourself get through them faster. Read books on it, meditate about it, or write about it in a journal. Remember the benefits of moving on. When you let go, you give yourself peace. Everything about holding on is torturous.
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The only way to feel peace is to quiet the thoughts that threaten it. Letting go opens you up to new possibilities. You have to give to receive.
Give love to get love, share joy to feel joy. Recognize and replace fearful thoughts.